As most of my friends and family know I volunteer a lot at my children's school. That is an opportunity afforded to me by my husband. We both decided that I would be a stay-at-home dad and take care of our children. So, I became very involved at their school. Now how involved, well a lot! I served as a board member on the Executive Board for the non-profit group that supports the elementary school. I am a committee head and a member on several committees as well. Anyhow....as I was saying.
Now I perked up and looked in their direction. They didn't know I could see their faces or that I was listening. This was a moment that clearly I was privileged to witness. So my daughter made the cutest scrunched face I had ever seen, a new one. She giggled and said yes. She also admitted to letting a fart out here or there herself. Lily stated her dad has farted too and it's STINKY. Laughs ensued again. There was a moment between them that was honest, conversational and there was a relatability between them that was evident.
My daughter was having a conversation about her family, her two dads and her life. It was a moment. A brief look into her process of her family, her two dads and what she experiences. I was just the audience at a moment that I replay over and over and over again. Now the best part of all of this was still to come. Yes, there's more!
Lily asked my daughter, you have two dads too! My daughter said yes. Then she asked Lily the same and Lily nodded yes. My daughter said, "That's so wow!" Then she said, "I love my daddies." My daughter is telling her friend that she loves her daddies. She enjoys the quirks of the stinky farts, the silly dancing, the singing of songs I know I don't have the range for, the jokes, the laughs and more. My daughter thinks it's all 'Wow' all of it!
I was a proud father at that moment. I give her love, nurturing, learning, understanding, moments of reading books, mani/pedis and more. What she remembers is the farts, it's stink and that she too has farts. She loves her daddies for who they are. She loves me. She has a friend who has two dads as well. She knows there are families out there that resemble her own. She knows there is a dad out there like her own. Lily validated that for her.
I knew in that 'That's so wow!' statement/moment that me being a stay at home dad was beneficial. I am being the dad that my daughter needs me to be. I am present. I am there for her. I cherish every day of every moment that I am able to father and parent my children.